Sex Therapy
I provide virtual therapy for individuals, couples, and relationships of all structures, including monogamous and non-monogamous clients (18+). Browse available services, and book a free 15-minute consultation.
I am dedicated to helping folks, particularly within the LGBTQ+ and neurodivergent communities, find healing from systems that have perpetuated their sexual oppression.
I understand firsthand how hurtful it is to be met with judgment when discussing issues related to sexual health, as well as how much healing can take place through nurturing our authentic selves in the therapy room. I deeply empathize with the ways in which sexual health issues can feel vulnerable to disclose, especially for queer, trans, nonbinary, and neurodivergent folks whose experiences are often misunderstood or pathologized in sexual spaces. I’ve also been able to witness how having a therapist who is shame-free and pleasure-centered can have the power to make a profound impact on one’s sense of self and beliefs.
I think this is a good time to share that I am pro-kink, pro-hoe, and pro-sex-work. Basically, I’m pro-anything-safer-sex-that-you-affirmatively-consent-to. Just thought you should know. This is a space where queer, trans, disabled, neurodivergent, and non-normative relationship structures are honored, not just accepted.
Sexuality is rarely emphasized enough in terms of people’s overall health.
Maybe you can relate to the fact that many of us grew up in an education system and/or culture where our experiences and desires were not validated. This shows up often for LGBTQ+ and disabled folks. Instead of accepting your various identities, you’ve learned shame and secrecy.
With this in mind, it can be so difficult to feel confident in ourselves and assert desires or challenges unapologetically…to say “I want to try something new tonight” or “I’m dissociating and would like to end sex now.” For neurodivergent folks in particular, advocating for sensory needs, pacing, or communicating preferences during sex can feel loaded.
Let’s reimagine your relationship with sex and eroticism.
So many of us carry ideas about what sex is “supposed to” look like - ideas shaped by culture, media, and fear of disappointing our partner(s). Maybe you’ve wondered, “What if my partner is offended that bodily fluids are sensory ick for me?” These kinds of fears and beliefs can leave us feeling stuck, disconnected, or anxious. When sex starts to feel like something we have to get right, our nervous systems respond accordingly: fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. And in that state, creativity shuts down. Playfulness fades. Sex stops feeling like ours.
One of my greatest joys in therapy is helping folks reconnect with their erotic selves on their terms. Together, we’ll explore what feels good and true for you - not what culture says should turn you on, not what your partner might expect, or what you’ve internalized as “normal.” The dominant sexual narratives out there? They’re restrictive for everyone. But something powerful happens when we start breaking away from them.
Maybe you discover that wearing gloves during play makes the sensory ick disappear, allowing you to feel more present and attuned. Maybe pelvic pain eases when your nervous system feels safe. Or maybe you uncover a desire that you’ve never given yourself permission to consider. Whatever it is, I’ll support you in staying curious, grounded in your body, and creating an intimate life that’s expansive, affirming, and uniquely yours.
You set the tone for therapy, but know that I will welcome you wherever you’re at.
If you want to dive right into discussing your latest sexual adventure, fabulous. If you’d prefer to not go there at all, or anything in between, also fabulous. Whether you’re exploring your sexual identity, navigating sex and intimacy as a neurodivergent person, or healing from shame, my main goal is to champion your pursuit of pleasure, in whatever way that looks like for you.
Let’s talk about…
Embracing your sexual identity and expression
Working with sexual desire differences
Challenges with sexual function or intimacy
Alleviating painful or uncomfortable sex
Kink and BDSM
Difficulty reaching orgasm or experiencing pleasure
Honoring sensory sensitivities related to sex
Feeling stuck or disconnected in your relationship(s)
Communicating your sexual needs, consent, and boundaries
Welcoming changes in sexuality over time
Navigating non-monogamy or alternative relationship structures
Managing sexual guilt or shame
Overcoming performance anxiety
Supporting asexuality and building connections that feel right for you
Frequently Asked Questions
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Sex therapy is a form of talk therapy with a therapist who has specialized training in sexual health. We talk openly and without judgement about sex, intimacy and relationships — something that a lot of people haven’t had much space to do in traditional therapy.
Sex therapy can help with concerns like low desire, mismatched libidos, pain during sex, difficulty with arousal or orgasm, intimacy challenges, communication, and overall sexual well-being. We might explore patterns relationship dynamics, cultural messages about sex, or anything else that’s impacting you.
To be clear, there is never any sexual activity in therapy. Everything happens through conversation, reflection, and guidance.
Online sessions are available for clients in Colorado and Illinois, providing a flexible, judgment-free space to work on your sexual health.
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No, you don’t need a partner to benefit from sex therapy. Sessions can be individual or with partner(s) depending on your goals.
Sex therapy supports all kinds of people, whether partnered, single, queer, asexual, or aromantic. You’re an embodied sexual or sensual being, however that shows up for you. Therapy can explore a wide range of topics, like sexual functioning, pain, desire, intimacy, pleasure, boundaries, and self-expression. These experiences don’t have to be tied to partnerships and we can tailor the work to what matters most to you.
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During sex therapy, we talk openly and confidentially about sexual concerns, patterns you’ve noticed, or things you’re wanting to understand or change.
We’ll usually start by getting a sense of your experiences and goals and go from there. I’m mindful of different cultural backgrounds, trauma, and comfort levels, and you’re always in control of what you choose to share. You’re welcome to talk about anything, but you won’t be pushed to answer questions you’re not ready for.
Sessions might include exploring your history, offering education, suggesting things to try outside of session, or working on communication, intimacy, or self-understanding.
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Yes. Sex therapy can help with low desire and mismatched libidos (also called desire discrepancy) by exploring what’s underneath the dynamic and what it means to you and your relationship(s).
I’m not here to pathologize anyone or tell you there’s a “normal” amount of sex you should be having. Instead, we focus on your values, your relationship(s), and what feels satisfying for you.
We might also explore what the mismatch means to you. Some people worry it signals incompatibility, disconnection, or some other problem in the relationship. Others realize what they really want is more intimacy, which could be in a sexual or nonsexual way.
In sessions, we might look at things like stress, communication patterns, emotional connection, individual desire styles, or external factors that affect libido. From there, we work toward strategies that feel realistic and aligned, helping you build a sexual relationship that works for everyone involved.
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Short answer: no. There’s no such thing as “too much” in sex therapy.
People often worry about being too explicit, too awkward, or too much in general, but this is a space where any topic is welcome. You don’t have to filter yourself or water things down to be appropriate. You’re not going to shock me, and I’m definitely not going to be clutching my pearls.
At the same time, you can go at your own pace, and we can ease into things if that feels better. My goal is to meet you where you’re at and create a space where you feel comfortable talking about things that might not be easy to say anywhere else.
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